Oh....... no new stuff going on. I swear, my blog must be the most exciting read on the net.

Let's see.....

1. The POISON tickets came in the mail.

2. Work was CA-RAZY this week. TGIF!!

3. Tomorrow is Toby's SURPRISE PARTY!! I really don't think he has any idea. I'm excited!

4. Sunday is his actual birthday - 35 baby!!

5. Stella got her hair (just bangs) cut again and i could just squeeze her little face. She's cute, incase ya'll haven't noticed.

6. Motion City is playing in DC on Wednesday and my parents, me, Stella, and the Thaxtons (the drummer's parents - lifelong friends) are all making a DAY of it and leaving early, having breakfast in Ashland, leisurely driving up, and spending the day just strolling around (hopefully with Matt and Tony.) I will have a bazillion million pictures for you on Thursday.

7. I am taking Thursday off to recoup because I am an old lady.

8. I am also taking off next Friday because on Saturday: I AM HAVING MY FIRST EVER YARDSALE. I will take Friday to go around my house and throw shit into a box and price it all and get it the hell out of here....AND make some money off of it.

9. I am hoping to fund our new deck - which Toby and his Uncle, Dad, my Dad, and a couple neighbors are all going to design and build starting May 17, I can't wait.

10. It's 7:35 am and I was woken up by TRAINS HONKING at 5am. We live near tracks and slept with the damn windows open last night. It was constant this morning. Of course NOW I don't hear any horns..........

11. Recent Pictures:

Here's Sissy




Here's Sissy and her tormentor, Stella




They really do love each other...







Cousins




At the MS Walk last weekend




And this one is for Libby..... and Alice.
These pups were in the "Pooch Parade" at the MS Walk. They belong to a co-worker of mine.

Pleasant Valley Saturday

My husband is across the street doing some major electrical work for the Lowerys. They are an older couple who are SO SWEET - they love Stella to death. They are so good to us. Toby is updating their entire electrical panel. I act like I know what that means. But he's been over there every afternoon this week and went over at 9am today - he says he'll finish today.

I hope so...because he's over there with his work van wide open, music blaring - some bluegrass shit. I'm sure everyone (esp the Lowerys) are just loving that. I'm across the street in my living room and I can hear it. If he wasn't my husband, I would kick his ass.

So, in other news, I am frazzled! (Well, that's not really anything new...)

I just feel like I don't have enough time EVER. It's really bugging me lately. I have not been to Jazzercise in nearly 3 weeks. I have had so many conflicts lately...and with working a few minutes late every day, family in town, other events, etc.... I just can't make it to the 5:45 class and get home after 7:00 pm and then.... Put my child down to bed at 8:00 pm. That's a whole 45 minutes or so with my child. No thanks. I already don't see her enough.

I'm trying to work this out because I DO love Jazzercise and I NEED to exercise.... Maybe it's just because it's been crazy lately with stuff... and when things settle down, I'll be able to function again. (However, I do have a call into the Employee Amenities person at work...I want to ask what it would take to get one of my Jazzercise instructors to come to OUR fitness center at work and teach a class a couple days a week. Now THAT would solve my problem.)

This morning was the MS Walk and Stella and I participated. (Work had a large team and I was a Captain.) So now that both WALKS are behind me... I do feel a little "free."

RIGHT NOW is the first time I have sat down in my house for more than 5 minutes - in over a week. EVERY night this week was "something." And while it was all good stuff, it still meant I wasn't home. So laundry is piled up, dishes are ready to be unloaded, the fridge needs cleaning out, and I feel out of control.

I have done everything that I can do for now - quietly. Someone is taking a nap and I be darned if I am going to wake her trying to do dishes. I already put all of my laundry away and went through my closets and got stuff together to sell at my FIRST EVER yardsale on May 3. I really need to get in Stella's room for a MAJOR toys and clothes overhaul. We might just get into that tomorrow when it's rainy and we are STUCK AT HOME. - THANK GOD!!

Contagious Me-Me

1. Where is your mobile phone? In my laptop bag under my desk.
2. Your significant other? Caring, Loving, Wild, Stubborn but always comes around.... :)
3. Your hair? Blonde. In an "in-between" stage - AGAIN.
4. Your mother? The most thoughtful, caring person I have ever known.
5. Your father? Quite, Brave, Strong, HEALTHY!
6. Your favorite thing? Weekends with my family. Uninterrupted time with Stella.
7. Your dream last night? The night before last had a few characters from work and my aunt's childhood friend, Carol Pamprin. LOL. Random. I don't remember last night's dream.
8. Your favorite drink? Take a guess. C.O.F.F.E.E.
9. Your dream/goal? To be a healthy weight and to be comfortable in my own skin so I can get on with the important things in life and not be preoccupied by my tight pants.
10. The room you're in? My cube - my home away from home.
11. Your ex? Don't have an ex. Toby was my first real relationship. Awwww.
12. Your fear? Anything bad happening to Stella, Toby and/or my Fam.
13. Where do you want to be in 6 years? Here. But better. (Good one, Q.)
14. Where were you last night? Home. Excitedly watching the Rock of Love Finale!!!
15. What you're not? Athletic
16. Muffins? An occasional treat
17. One of your wish list items? A complete/finished/final new deck! (Which Toby is buidling at the end of May. And has promised to FINISH it. No un-done projects.)
18. Where you grew up? Mechanicsville, Virginia/Hanover County. Toby and I hope to get back there some day because the schools are great for Stella.
19. The last thing you did? Heated up my South Beach meal in the microwave
20. What are you wearing? Cropped, short sleeve white blazer with big red and black flowers and cropped black slacks
21. Your TV? Is old and heavy - we need a new one
22. Your pets? Abby (pit bull/lab) Elvis (rottweiler) Sissy (cat)
23. Your computer? Just got an green apple Dell laptop that I am in LOVE with...
24. Your life? Full of blessings
25. Your mood? Ok. Slightly overwhelmed. Never relaxed. But nice.
26. Missing someone? Carol Bock
27. Your car? 2002 Mazda Tribute
28. Something you're not wearing? socks
29. Favorite Store? Groceries? Trader Joes (Richmond is finally getting one!) Clothes? Macy's
30. Your summer? Busy already
31. Like someone? Most people...
32. Your favorite color? currently - deep, dark pink. There are some azaleas blooming right now that are that color and are just breathtaking....
33. When is the last time you laughed? A few minutes ago, chatting with a couple of my best colleagues at work.
34. Last time you cried? After the 10K I was a MESS and cried at everything. Since then? I can't remember... and that's a good thing.

I'm coming for you Bret!

Tickets purchased for August 13.

Excited beyond belief.

Emily Tagged Me!

Emily has tagged me to write my six-word memoir.

Here are the rules:
1. Write your own six word memoir
2. Post it on your blog and include a visual illustration if you’d like
3. Link to the person that tagged you in your post
4. Tag five more blogs with links
5. Remember to leave a comment on the tagged blogs with an invitation to play

Strong.
Care-Giver.
Creative.
Organized.
Sarcastic.
Forgiving.

Did I do ok??

Tag!
Kim
Melanie
Lisa
Leslie
Chris

I wonder....

...if all of the other marathon walkers are CRIPPLED today?!?! Good Lord I must be SO out of shape. I am absolutely in pain! My hip flexors and surprisingly - my waist - are the worst. It's a good pain though. The pain of accomplishment.

I will say, I was cussing a blue streak for the first 3 miles in the pouring down rain! But my friends Leslie and Marcey kept trudging - and so did I. And I'm glad I did.

We finished the 6.2 miles in 1 hour, 50 minutes, and some-odd seconds.....

I think I'll definitely do it again next year - maybe not in the rain again - and hopefully next year I will be in better shape, weigh MUCH less, and might actually TRAIN. LOL!

Here I am before the race - all nice and dry. I got several compliments on the hat. :) More pics of the actual race to come....

Friday

There are so many unfinished projects around our house...and other stuff that needs to be done that hasn't been touched yet... The siding on house needs to be replaced in one spot - it's close to HANGING off. The shower upstairs needs to be torn out and the pipe needs to be fixed underneath (it is leaking into the dining room - therefore has not been used in MONTHS), the toilet up there is doing something funky so a part needs replacing, there are still no baseboards in the computer room where Toby replaced the floor nearly a year ago....you know, stuff like that.

STUFF I CAN'T DO. Stuff my husband CAN do since he is in the construction field.

Toby just told me that his MAIN plan for the weekend is to "till a garden."

What. The. He - double hockeysticks.

I'm glad "tilling a garden" have become #1 on the priority list when the house is falling apart. I know "tilling a garden" is probably a million times more enjoyable than fixing a part in a toilet bowl, but damn!

And who, prey tell, is going to maintain the GARDEN? That would not be me. I'm not Martha Stewart. Far from it.

I'm about to go to Home Depot and take some classes on baseboard installation and do it myself.

In other news, I am doing the 10K tomorrow.

TOMORROW.

Time flies when you don't train a lick.

If it's raining cats and dogs, I am not doing it. But if it's misting, I'll do it. I hope I don't die.

Oh - and an update on the Drunk in Your Own Garage charge and investigation.

A Captain with the Police Department called Toby yesterday... and he also called Toby's friend who said he would talk. SO, it's still on. Toby even called him back, so he made an effort! When he called back, the Captain had already left.....so he has not been interviewed yet. But hopefully when they stop playing phone tag, something will be accomplished. So that's promising.

In COUSIN news, both boys are still suffering. And they will for a long time. Keep the prayers coming.

And my final note will be the most EXCITING news I have had in a long time........

POISON is coming to RICHMOND on AUGUST 13.

Happy 32nd Birthday to Me!
(And Cece is flying home for it. Since we first say POISON together 19 years ago... Dang!)

Dreary

That pretty much sums up everything today... this past weekend, the weather, my mood, the experience I just had in the cafeteria.....

I owe you guys an update regarding Officer S*******. Well, as far as I know, an investigation is still underway within the Police Department. Who knows? I have to say, I was disappointed last week when a Captain called me and told me he was in charge of the investigation and could I please give him names and numbers of the others that were there. So I excitedly got off the phone and called our closest friend who was there and he said "I don't really want my name involved..."

Huh?

Everyone was so damn angry and gung-ho when this went down! Everyone was ready to take off work and go to court with us and confront the injustice. So I put MY name out there (I wasn't even there...) and wrote letters and had meetings with lawyers and security people.... So, I was upset but told him "that's your right, I suppose." I called Toby and asked him to give me the other guys' numbers. Well, when HE asked the other guy, he said the same thing. Nice. I think Toby's feelings were hurt... I know mine would have been.

The third guy and his girlfriend agreed to be interviewed. So I gave their names and number to the Captain...and have yet to hear back - from anyone. I have a feeling the Captain called them, left a message, and they never called him back. So, it's probably all being swept under the rug. And you know what?

Fine.

Matt' girlfriend Kristen worked for a lawyer years ago and when she told him the story, he was so mad that he offered to represent Toby for FREE. So I told Toby about it and he squashed it. He doesn't want to fight it. He wants to pay the fine and forget it. Forget the charge and forget the investigation.

So, FINE.

I'm done. It's not my charge. It's not my record or my reputation. I wasn't even freaking there!! I was fighting for Toby's rights, but if HE won't even fight for his rights, then screw it. And if his friends won't even stand up for him.... I can't do it alone. And I WON'T do it alone. So, there you have it. I guess it's over....and I'm writing a check to the courts for $101 tomorrow.

So, the first half of this weekend was pretty good. Toby's aunt and uncle kept Stella overnight on Saturday. They live about 40 minutes from us...so we drove her out there and you would think we were driving her to summer camp to stay for a month. We were so distraught!! Not because we were nervous or scared, but because we were going to miss her. I know you all are gagging now, but it's true! I just ENJOY her.

We left there and had dinner at a new mexican place we have wanted to try (El Toro Loco) and it was NOT that great. Richmonders, don't waste your time or money. Just stick with the best: Mexico!!

While eating, were were talking about what to do next and we seriously could not figure out what to do....

I don't want to go to a bar....
I don't want to go see a movie, I'm too tired....
I don't feel like drinking....
I don't want to go hang out with people....

So, we ended up at Barnes and Nobles and walked around for a long time... which actually was perfect! I can't remember the last time I did that. And I didn't have to rush because someone was getting antsy... it was nice.

And it was REALLY nice to be able to sleep in until I am done sleeping, you know?!?!

I slept in until the late hour of 9am. WOO HOO!

We got up and I had my coffee and turned on the laptop to find an upsetting e-mail from my Mom about my cousins - they had been in a horrible car accident on Saturday night. She sent an e-mail because she didn't want to wake us up so early.... She had left for church by the time I got the message. So I called my Grandma and she filled me in.

They were drunk driving. I can't say I'm surprised, but I'm so incredibly sad and upset. I won't go into it all but I'll just ask for prayers for them both. Neither one is in good shape, but one is way worse than the other... And pray for their wives and children.

And pray for the other people they hit - a guy and a girl - both with broken limbs.

It was a horrible accident, but so far, everyone is alive. If they make it out of this, then pray for some LESSONS to be learned. Some major lessons. And CHANGE. Pray for change.

Accidents are horrible; but they are really horrible when they are 100% preventable.

So......... I'm kind of on edge today about all of this.

And work is a nuthouse today with some big restructure/transitioning thingees going on. (And that is the technical term. ha!)

I'm a wee bit sensitive.

I went downstairs to get some lunch in the cafeteria. We have several "stations" of food. The saute station, sandwich station, pizza station, grill station, salad bar, etc... At the saute station, they were fixing a pasta dish. I didn't want the whole dish, I just wanted about 10 of the penne noodles on top of my salad. SO I ask the girl behind the counter for just a few noodles....I mean, I will be paying for them; my salad will be weighed. And the girl says No.

Huh? (I'm doing a lot of that lately.)

I said "I can't have just a spoonful of cold pasta?"

And she points to the whole station and says "The pasta is just for this."

And I say "But I just want a spoonful..."

And she gets all huffy and mad and says "Whatever!" and reaches for my salad container.

So I snatch it back and say "Well if you are going to get in trouble over some pasta, just forget it!" (Honestly, I was surprised at my outburst. I never do that.)

And I went and got a turkey burger.

The point of all that - it really upset me! I almost cried! I mean, WTF?!?! I am seriously contemplating putting in a complaint. My boss is the VP that is over the Employee Amenities Department which includes all food service. If I wanted to be a twerp, I could totally name drop. And I am close to doing it.

But I know I'm not upset over some cold penne.

It's the fact that lives have been altered over stupid alcohol and idiotic decisions.

And I just don't get it.

Easter Weekend 2008

Here she is on Saturday for our Easter Photo shoot. I put this pic in everyone's Easter card.



Here she is with the one treat she got at the Church Easter Egg Hunt on Saturday morning. A bite-size butterfinger. That took a dang HOUR for her to eat and GOOD LUCK getting it out of her death grip despite the dirt, rocks, and butterfinger sticky goo that was running down her arm and all over her white sweater - that I washed ATLEAST 3 times this weekend.



The Easter Bunny came on Sunday!!



Stella had her first PEEP! Check out all the easter grass stuck to the wet marshmallow - AND in her mouth...



We had Zana, Kim, and Kendall over to our house for Breakfast. The girls were too cute in their dresses....



Then we headed to Mimi's for Lunch. Here are the kiddies on that side of the fam....



And OHMYGOD - check it out! This is as rare as a two dollar bill. An actual picture of me and my daughter!!! (Usually I am behind the camera...)



THEN we headed to Mamaw's for a little Egg Hunt for the girls. Stella had to take a quick bobcat nap first, though.





THEN (no, I'm not kidding) we headed to my Nanny's house for that side of the family's Annual Easter Egg Hunt - which is a 30+ year tradition....

Here are all the Great-Grandbabies....



And Stella's healthy dinner of a "dookie." She was too distracted to eat.



And then we went home and we all passed out!!! It was a busy, but wonderful day.

Happy Easter Everyone.

I fought the law and..... I hope I win.

Alrighty!! It's been an interesting week here. That is the understatement of the century.

Stella and I went to Northern Virginia last weekend for a "Girls Weekend" with Toby's sister Kim, her daughter, Kendall....we went up to visit Zana, Toby's Mom. We had such a great time. My next post will include pictures and videos of the girls. They are only 10 months apart and are best buddies and SO enjoy each other. We shopped Saturday at the Leesburg Outlets and I stocked up on 2T Carter's pajamas (my favorite!) for the summer. I also got myself a few spring/summer things at the Lane Bryant Outlet. It was a fun, successful trip.

So on Sunday, we were getting in the car to come home and I called Toby to tell him so...and he had some major news for me. Instead of telling you the entire story, I am just going to post the LETTER I wrote to the CHIEF OF POLICE this week. We are now involved in a full-fledge investigation of a certain Police Officer. (Oh, and just a side note, the "Officer S*******" actually stands for his name. But it could stand of Officer Shithead, if you so choose.)

Sit back, relax, grab a snack, and catch up on our recent event:

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Good Afternoon, Chief S******.

Thank you in advance for you attention in this matter. My husband and I strongly believe that his rights were violated this past weekend by one of your H****** County Officers. If I felt that Toby was in the wrong in any way possible, I would not be contacting you whatsoever. Infact, he might still be in jail because I would not bail him out! However, this situation is cause for concern to us - as well as cause for concern for our neighbors on L******** Avenue.

On Saturday, March 15 at approximately 8pm, four of our friends arrived at our house, 1234 L******** Avenue. I was out of town with our 19 month old daughter and Toby wanted to have the "boys" over to play pool and have some beers in the garage. One gentleman brought his girlfriend, who was his DD for the night. The other 2 gentlemen planned to spend the night so they did not have to drive home after drinking beer. Our garage is detached and is located at the back of our property and this is where the pool table is located.

At approximately 9pm, the girlfriend noticed a police car in our driveway and a spotlight was coming from the car into the garage. Toby looked out the window and instantly thought that maybe the radio was too loud. (May I also note that my parents live next door at 1234 L******** Avenue. They were home all evening, watching TV in their living room which is on the side of their house closest to our back yard. They did not hear a thing this entire night - so a noice complaint is highly unlikely.) Regardless, Toby stepped out of the garage and walked the length of our yard towards the police car - he wanted to ask what was wrong and if there was something he could do. As he was walking, the spotlight from the car was in his eyes so he had his hands up to shield the light, and actually tripped over some window weights that were stacked next to the fence. He said "Would you mind dropping the light? I can't see." When he straighted up, Officer JR S******* was out of the car, had called for backup on his radio, and had his weapon out. Toby even remarked at the gun "What is that? What's going on?" Officer S******* then told him to get up against the car, he forcefully used his feet to try to spread Toby's legs to pat him down and asked if he had any weapons or drugs on him. Toby said all that he had was a can of Kodiak (dip) in this pocket. Officer S******* took the can out and threw it across the yard. He then asked Toby if he had been drinking. Toby answered "Yes, in my garage with my buddies. We're playing pool." Officer S******* then said "How many beers have you had?" to which Toby answered "4 or 5?" Officer S******* then said "That's an admission of guilt. You are under arrest." and then cuffed my husband and put him in the back of the car. Toby said "I'm in my own garage!" Officer S******* told him "Well, you should not have left the garage." Please tell me WHO would not go outside to inquire when a police car is sitting in his driveway and is shining a spotlight into his dwelling? By now, three additional police cars have shown up for "back-up."

At this point, our dogs had roamed to the front yard. They stick by Toby's side when he is in the yard - normally they are in a fence. Officer S******* would not let Toby take the dogs back to their fenced in area in the back of our property. He said "Someone get this dog out of here or I'll put it down or call Animal Control." Our friend grabbed the dogs and took them to the back of the yard to fence them in. He also locked our house up for us, since Toby was not allowed to do that either.

As Toby was sitting in the car, Officer S******* then asked whose cars were parked on the street in front of our neighbor's house. This is apparently the reason he was there in the first place. That house, 1234 L******** Avenue, is a run-down, nearly abandoned rental property owned by Joe Hayes. We believe this property is on a "routine patrol" route for officers because of vandalism in the past. We have been questioned several times by incredibly nice and helpful officers, Officer R*** is one I remember being especially nice. We have never heard a thing when this so-called "vandalism" happened in past. Infact, I would not know the difference between new vandalism and the windows that have been broken since I moved in nearly 1.5 years ago. Toby did not feel it was a big deal for our friends to park their car in front of this abandoned house since our driveway was full. One of our neighbors had a party a few weekends ago and there were cars up and down L******** in front of EVERYONE'S yards. I didn't see anyone being questioned or arrested.

While in the back of the car, Toby overheard Officer S******* telling one of the back-up officers that Toby had approached his car "in a threatening manner." Toby said from the back "I can hear you. You are lying." Officer S******* then drove him to H****** County Jail and on the ride continued to taunt Toby with comments such as "I get to go home to my wife tonight. Where are you going? Oh, I KNOW where you are going." He contined to ask Toby questions like "How old are you?" and "Are you from around here?" to which Toby replied "I am not talking to you. You do not make any sense."

My husband then spent the night in jail with very intoxicated men who were vomiting everywhere and spooning each other on the bed. Our friends called all night long to get an answer as to when he would be released so they could pick him up. They were told several different times. When they called the last time, they were told he was gone. No one ever informed Toby that someone was trying to pick him up OR offer Toby his one phone call. He then walked 3 miles home.

My husband is ashamed and embarassed. His in-laws live next door. We have older neighbors who we respect very much. He is devestated at the thought of them seeing him cuffed and arrested in our front yard. My husband also has a criminal record from years previous - before we met and married. He did his time and paid his dues and has turned his life around 100%. We are both professional, contributing members of society. We have a house, cars, and we pay our bills. We have a family and we mind our own business. This incident has brought up all of the memories of his painful past and have him apprehensive to even leave his house for fear of getting into trouble. This sickens me.

I have met with a lawyer acquaintance on this situation. I understand that this arrest was a "legal arrest" as he was outside of the house (public) and admitted to having some beers (drunk.) We do not have the money to hire a pit-bull attorney to go to the court date to try to get this dismissed when there is a chance that a judge would deem it legal. We will pay the $101.00 fine. That is not our issue.

Was this an ethical arrest and was Toby treated with integrity? No. Is this charge on Toby's reformed record deserved? No. Why was this officer (and 3 additional officers) spending time in my front yard arresting my husband who had 4 beers in his garage, when there are actual DRUNK DRIVERS out on the road? My husband and his friends were drinking responsibly. Instead of being ARRESTED, I feel my husband should be AWARDED for his smart decision to not endanger his life and the lives of others. Instead, he was punished, embarassed, ashamed, abused, and humiliated.

I will be honest and tell you that my husband has major anxiety about launching an investigation regarding Officer S*******. While he knows he was wronged, he is afraid of retaliation. He is afraid this will blow up and we will be targeted, which is no way to live. It would be much easier to just pay the fine and let it go. So, I ask for your support in making sure that we are not "punished" for sharing our story with you.

Thank you for taking the time to investigate this matter. PLEASE contact me if you have any questions.

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How's that for an eventful week?

I'll keep you posted on the outcome of this.... and maybe you could say some prayers for us (especially Toby) as well.